family systems thinking

The Trouble With Togetherness

There are two things you need to know about families:

1.     Families operate in predictable patterns to keep things calm.

2.     Some families can respond more flexibly to stress than others.

Sprinkle some festive holiday anxiety on top, and family patterns become even more rigid. When I spent a week with my family at Thanksgiving, I saw these truths in action. Inevitably, I participated in them as well.